Knowing Your Limits

Knowing Your Limits

Originally posted: December 18, 2017

You know what is really interesting about life? We are always learning and adapting the way we understand the events that happen around us.

So far, I’ve discussed becoming a healthier person and the positive ways to do that. But I don’t really think that we have dove into mental and emotional health as much.

Do You Know Your Limits?

To me, limits, are what we will allow ourselves to handle. Anything above a set limit is too much. After reaching your limit, it is good to take a break from the situation or the event.

Admitting that you have a set limit is not a weakness. It just means that you are aware of what your body needs. Click To Tweet

Personally, I have physical, emotional, and mental limits. And admitting that you have a set limit is not a weakness. It just means that you are aware of what your body needs. I’m going to go through and break these down a bit. I hope that this makes everyone think and come up with their own limits.

Physical Limit

With my mobility issues, I’ve become pretty aware of what my body can handle. There are still some days that I push myself and I don’t mean to, but I think I have found a pretty good balance. If I have a doctor’s appointment or physical therapy scheduled one day, I’ll make sure that the next day is open to rest. That way, I can relax and release the tension that’s built up over the previous day.

I also like to try and plan out my week ahead of time. This helps me know what I need to get done. If I can plan out a shopping list I know what stores I will need to go to. Instead of shopping when I run out of something.

Emotional Limit

Knowing your emotional limit is kind of a tricky one. It is based on your personal background and on what you can handle. When I’m close to my limit, I try to remove myself from the situation.

Improve by:

  • Say ”no” when you need to
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Start a journal
  • Detox from negativity

Mental Limit

Stress can be the biggest trigger to your mental limit. The best thing to do is find ways to combat the stress in your life. Change up your routine or limit your exposure to stressful situations.

If you are going through something, remember you are not alone. Don't be afraid to lean on others for help. Click To Tweet

Even with all of these, you know your body, listen to it. It will tell you when something is wrong.  Everyone is going through something whether you know it or not. It’s so important that we are kind and understanding of others. If you are going through something, remember you are not alone. Don’t be afraid to lean on others for help.

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Breaking Down My First Month of Blogging

Breaking Down My First Month of Blogging

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Hello and thank you for visiting Join The ME Project. I officially welcome you to the first blog post of the new year. And to start the year off right, I thought I would reflect on my first-month blogging. Which just so happens to be December of 2018. Today, I’ll be breaking down my stats, what lessons I learned, and what I think other bloggers should be doing.

The Warm Up

I’ve mentioned before in, Let Me Reintroduce Myself, that this is not my first time blogging. I do have some prior knowledge. While this helped the whole experience seem less daunting, I still felt overwhelmed at times.

Towards the middle of 2018, I went on a hiatus from my previous blog. I made the decision to rebrand under a new name. This meant I needed to:

  • Create a blog with the new name
  • Change my social media to match
  • Think of my blog identity
  • Choose my brand colors

Resources That Come in Handy

To complete this list that I created for myself, I sat down and thought about what I wanted Join The ME Project to represent. I used the majority of resources discussed in Free Resources Every Blogger Should Know About. I used Canva to come up with a mood board for inspiration. I go back to this mood board often when I’m thinking of colors to use for headers or other content.

Orange mood board

In this regard, the best advice that I can give you is write down a game plan and stick to it. Your blog identity should be what helps people recognize your blog. Think about:

  • The font you use
  • The main colors of your blog
  • Matching your blog and social media profiles
  • Keep it consistent
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Self Host

By November, of 2018, I was on my way to being ready. The only cost that I had accumulated at this time was biting the bullet and deciding to self-host right away. For my domain fee and WordPress Package, I was only charged $12.00. I chose 1&1 IONOS because that’s who I had my previous package with for my other blog.

1&1 ionos web hosting

Writing from experience, when it comes to self-hosting, a lot of companies will offer great deals for first-time customers or first-year packages. You usually won’t see a hike in prices until the second year. First-time bloggers, don’t be afraid to shop around before agreeing to contract. At the same time, don’t be afraid to leave a contract if it’s not what you want.

Getting Started

I set aside the month of November to do some fine tuning on my blog and get my social media together. In my case, I recycled a theme from my previous blog but I will list where to find WordPress Themes, free and premium.

Next, it was time to set up social media. My first time blogging with my other blog, I made the mistake of trying to juggle every social media under the sun. Quickly, I found myself overwhelmed. This time around, I knew not to make that same mistake. I focus on Twitter, Pinterest, and Facebook, mainly because they are great sources of traffic.

November stats

Tip for the beginning: I had no posts for the month of November but I was still able to get 107 views and 57 visitors. It may not seem like much for some but all progress and all success should be celebrated. A great way to build anticipation and get people interested in your blog is to post teasers about it. This, of course, requires that you set up your social media beforehand.

The Month of December

I published 10 posts during the month of December. The most popular were:

The Illusion Of Social Media– with 96 views

Free Resources Every Blogger Should Know About– with 93 views

Stats for December

Stats for December

  • 769 views
  • 317 visitors
  • 39 likes
  • 50 comments

Share on Social Media

A lot of my traffic came from Twitter, WordPress.com Reader, Facebook, and Pinterest. I had some from Instagram but not a lot, it’s not something I spend a lot of time on. I post on it regularly, but the follow/unfollow game has caused me to lose interest in the app.

Besides my mini-rant on Instagram, you should be sharing blog posts on your social media. Don’t think that by writing a great post and hitting publish that your job is done. If that’s the case, it may never get seen. Share across your social media to attract readers back to your blog.

Share on:

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter
  • Google+

My Thoughts

I am honestly very happy with my stats so far. December necessarily isn’t the easiest month to write a blog in because of the holidays and vacation time. I didn’t make any money last month but it wasn’t a goal of mine. My goal was to work on traffic and engagement.

Join The ME Project is very near and dear to my heart, and I want to do everything that I can to make it the best blog and brand possible. Click To Tweet

Join The ME Project is very near and dear to my heart, and I want to do everything that I can to make it the best blog and brand possible. Right now, I want to work on establishing a community. Everything else can come later.

Your Thoughts

Now, I want to hear your thoughts. Did any of this information help you at all? Will you be using any of these tips from this blog post? Let me know below.

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Let’s End It With a Smile

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Let’s End It With A Smile

Originally Posted: December 4, 2017

Over the weekend, I started thinking about what I want to accomplish in the new year, what good habits I want to start. And I’m not talking about New Year’s Resolutions. To be honest, I’ve never really understood the hype. Only the determined and dedicated stick them, most give up after a couple weeks. My goal is to incorporate some of these things into my lifestyle and the others are things that I want to do for my blog.

The Blog, The Brand

In the middle of the year, I decided to do a complete brand 360. I realized just how much The ME Project meant to me. I questioned why it wasn’t the focus of my brand. I went on a hiatus and I got to work.

One of my biggest goals for 2019, is to make sure that both my blog and brand are optimized to their fullest potential. Motivation and Encouragement are the very foundation of The ME Project and they always will be but I want to include more. Be on the lookout for:

  • Blogging Resources
  • Wellness & Self-Care
  • Mental Health
  • Healthy Living
  • Brand Identity
  • Social Media Tips
  • Chronic Illness
  • Blogger Interviews

Planner

Some may not believe this, but I finally got a planner. And I am so excited because I won’t have to keep dashing between my phone and the notebook I’ve been using. I’m honestly surprised that I’ve done well so far, it’s a bit of a mess I’m afraid. I picked a planner that’s nondated. I liked this option because I have more control over what goes into it. I also bought some pens to use along with it.

Flowery Nondated Planner

Price: $11.77

Previously, I was using post-it notes to keep track of what needed to be done. Let’s just say, that got out of hand very fast. I’m a visual learner so being able to write in different colors will help me keep track of everything.
Price: $5.95

Health & Exercise

I have to say it seems like I’ll be ending the year with more questions than answers when it comes to some aspects of my health. And I’m okay with that. It’s taken me a long time, but I’ve finally come to an understanding about that. There are some things in my life that I won’t be able to change so I’m going to start focusing on the parts that I can.

I’ve found certain exercises that I can do without breaking my 20-minute limit. Losing weight isn’t really my priority. I want to try and eat healthier, exercise to the best of my ability, and drink more water.

The Blogger Series

I’ve expressed my gratitude often, but I still don’t think it’s enough. The outpouring of support has been so awe-inspiring and I just wish that I could do more to show you all just how appreciative I am. Remember, if you would like to be a part of Blogger Interview series you can just leave me a comment with your email below or send me an email at info@jointhemeproject.com.

Also, I would love to have guest posts for this series. It can be anything along the topics of mentioned earlier under The Blog, The Brand subheading. If you would like to do a guest post, just let me know.


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How to Make| Kentucky Cream Pie

How to Make| Kentucky Cream Pie| Today I was feeling nostalgic so I thought I would share a family recipe. Read more to find out how to make, Kentucky Cream Pie.- jointhemeproject.com

How to Make

Kentucky Cream Pie

Originally posted: October 8, 2017

Hello, and welcome back to The ME Project. I was feeling a bit nostalgic today so I thought I would share a family recipe. Let me know your thoughts below and I hope you enjoy.

My grandfather was originally from Mount Sterling, KY. Kentucky Cream Pie was something he grew up having. My mother made it for him a few years ago before he died, making it yesterday, made me think of him too.

Now, because it’s a Kentucky tradition and it’s been passed down through generations, it has many names. Our family knows it by Kentucky Cream Pie. But I’ve also heard it been called a transparent pie, sugar pie, and chess pie. We have a friend in Greenup Kentucky, who has a similar recipe but knows it by Vinegar Pie.

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The family recipe that we follow calls for you to split the eggs. Use the egg yolks in the batter and the egg whites for the meringue on top of the pie. But our family recipe is also written inside of a Southern Living, 1983 Annual Recipes book. The recipe was written down by my mother, who will tell you that she’s not the best note taker. If  you would like to follow our family recipe, here you go, I wish you the best:

How to Make| Kentucky Cream Pie| Today I was feeling nostalgic so I thought I would share a family recipe. Read more to find out how to make, Kentucky Cream Pie.- jointhemeproject.com

As you are probably guessing, I didn’t follow the family recipe. I found a similar recipe at www.thespruce.com. We did not make the crust, we just used store bought. But in the link, they do have a recipe on how to make your own crust.

Ingredients Needed:

  • 4 large eggs
  • 2 cups of sugar
  • 2 tablespoons of flour
  • 1/2 cup of melted butter
  • 1 cup of heavy cream
  • 1/4 teaspoon of salt
  • 1 teaspoon of vanilla

Whisk the eggs in a mixing bowl, then add the rest of the ingredients. Just as a word of caution, reduce the speed of your mixer when you add the heavy cream.

If you haven’t made a mess of your kitchen, you can proceed to pour the mixture into your pie crust. The recipe that we were following said to use a pie shield, but we didn’t do that.

Temperature: 350 F

The recipe also said that cook time would only be 55 minutes, we didn’t find that to be true. Truly, it ended up being more like an hour and 10 minutes. Let it cool on a rack and then chill before serving.

And here we have it, Kentucky Cream Pie. Those curious about the taste that has never had it, simply put, it’s pecan pie without the pecans. That’s the best way I can describe it. If you don’t like custard or eggs, you may not find this enjoyable. But for me, this was a taste of home.

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Free Resources Every Blogger Should Know About

Free Resources Every Blogger Should Know About

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Hello everyone and welcome back to The ME Project. After writing, Tech Review|Canva iOS App I realized that there were other free resources out there for bloggers that I thought you all should know about. So today, I will be breaking down my top 8 and I made up an infographic which will be at the bottom.

Let me know what you think of my list. If you made up your own list how would yours differ from mine? Tell me in the comments below.

Canva

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I use Canva to create the majority of the graphics you see on my blog and social media. It is very convenient to use and with the iOS app downloaded on my phone, I can create graphics on the go. (For a more in-depth review, please read Tech Review|Canva iOS App)

Unsplash

Website

Unsplash.com is my go to website for stock photos. In the beginning, I had a hard time finding some. I stumbled upon Unsplash and it serves all my needs. You can search by topic or theme.

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Crowdfire

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I was very overwhelmed with the amount of social media I had taken on in the beginning. Using Crowdfire gives me an overview of my Twitter and blog. It also allows me to schedule posts.

Instagram Followers App

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I think by now we all know of the follow/unfollow game on Instagram. At this present time, I don’t really see it changing. It is really sad that people do it, I don’t honestly see how this helps them grow their platform. Using Followers+ doesn’t necessarily stop the problem, but it helps me keep track of the unfollowers.

Collabor8

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With Collabor8 you set up an account on the app and link your social media. You have the ability to contact brands or have brands contact you. Most transactions are done by either trade or pay. But you have control of when the transaction will take place. I think it’s a very handy app to have. So far I haven’t found another quite like it.

Grammarly Keyboard

Download

I started using it for the convenience but now I find myself lost without it. It makes writing a blog post or a quick tweet so easy. Spell checking and grammar, it’s all there. Just download the app and the keyboard to your phone.

Tailwind

Download / Website

Tailwind is a marketing tool associated with Pinterest and most recently, Instagram. It’s available online or in app form. It saves you time by scheduling your pins ahead of time.

Find out more info about Tailwind by reading:

Facebook Groups

In the very beginning, I had such a love-hate relationship with Facebook. I understood that it would be in my benefit to create a Facebook Page for my blog but I went about it in all the wrong ways. I hadn’t used the site since 2009 so I was a little rusty in what to do.

Making a page for my blog has created some traffic for my blog. But the biggest source of support has been finding other blog groups and communities. Sometimes it takes effort to find the right ones for you but the support you find within these communities is so helpful. I’ll list two of the ones I like below.

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The Illusion Of Social Media

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The Illusion of Social Media

Previously posted: October 23, 2017

Before the idea of creating a blog entered my mind, I had stopped posting as much on my personal social media. My level of interest in it had become very low. I deleted Snapchat off my phone and closed my personal Twitter account. And I had stopped using Facebook in high school. So in the process of elimination Instagram was my only social media, but I even got tired of that.

By tired, I’m not talking about Instagram as an application but the persona that I had created. When I made my account, I had just graduated high school, and I was healthy. On Instagram, I would always see perfect food, hair, makeup, and places to travel to. I thought that I needed to contribute to this.

At the time, I didn’t realize that I was just adding on to the illusion of social media. Because it wasn’t until around the year 2014, that my health started to change. I got sicker and my mobility was different. I no longer had opportunities to feature and showcase what I used to on my Instagram. Instead of being out in the middle of a field, my view was now a doctor’s office. And even though, I’ve tried there’s no way to get a pretty picture of that.

One day, I woke up and I realized that my whole life had changed. I needed to be honest with myself. Click To Tweet

It got to the point that I would hide that part of me, the sick side. I would post the “best” or “pretty” parts of my life and hide the ugly. But I wasn’t acknowledging that the “best” or “pretty” parts were coming around less and less. One day, I woke up and I realized that my whole life had changed. I needed to be honest with myself.

Around this time, Lara Parker at BuzzFeed published, I Stopped Lying About How Happy I Was On Instagram And Started Telling The Truth About Chronic Pain, I ask that everyone go read this if you already haven’t. Reading this article helped me break out of this false reality that I had built for myself. For one, I was treating my illnesses as a thing or a problem and not as a part of me. Two, I thought by not letting people in, the problems would go away.

Reading this article helped me break out of this false reality that I had built for myself Click To Tweet

So I started to post more on Instagram, but I went about it differently. This time around, I decided to be honest about whatever I’m going through. There are days that I don’t feel like or can’t get out of the bed depending on if it’s physical or mental. There’s only so much of a story, a picture can tell, so this is also one of the reasons I started my blog. I wanted to share my journey and tell my story.

Social media has grown so much in such a short amount of time. It’s used to connect people, reach out, and make friends. But it can also influence. The influence it has on some can leave a powerful effect. I think we all can use the occasional reminder that it’s just an illusion.

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Spoonie Tips for Surviving Winter

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Spoonie Tips for Surviving Winter

Originally posted: November 3, 2017.
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Hello everyone, thank you for joining me again on The ME Project. I love this time of year, but as the weather starts to transition throughout the season it gets a little hard for me. The cold weather makes me ache and the lack of sun just about drains me. You may be thinking to yourself, “Why do you love it?” This time of year lets me create my own sunshine. I find ways to keep myself busy and most importantly healthy.

Now, this is not to say that I don’t still have bad days. I do, just like everyone else. But I try my best to work through them and remember that tomorrow is another day. So today I’ll be taking you through my top tips for surviving winter. I hope you all enjoy and let me know in the comments what helps you get through this time of year.

This time of year lets me create my own sunshine. I find ways to keep myself busy and most importantly healthy. Click To Tweet

Use a Weekly Pill Organizer

This may sound like a weird tip, but I’ve found that it’s helped me so much. If you deal with any sort of health condition like me, you probably take a lot of medication. I’d noticed that I’d gotten really lazy about taking my medicine at night. Periodically, I would forget to take my morning doses. Sometimes it can be a chore to huddle up all of the pill bottles and get the right dosage of medication.

Weekly AM/PM Pill Organizer

Weekly AM/PM Pill Organizer- $9.99

So each week I’ll set aside time to refill it and it makes my life so much easier. I really like this pill organizer because the capsules come out. If my day is going to be busy from morning on, I can pop the capsule in my purse and go about my day.

Stay Hydrated the Right Way

Dehydration is a serious issue and sometimes we may not be aware of it. If you’ve experienced dry skin, headaches, or dizziness in some cases these symptoms can be attributed to dehydration. Chronic health problems and the weather can affect the way we feel but we can take precautionary measures. There are a lot of benefits to drinking water and staying hydrated.

Rehydrate Pro 25oz Insulated Water BottleRehydrate Pro 25oz Insulated Water Bottle- $18.97

Drinking water throughout the day will increase energy, prevent muscle cramps, and detoxify the body. There are also fruits with high water content. My local grocery stores stock pre-cut watermelon and I’ve developed a habit of snacking on that.

Other fruits and veggies are:

  • Cantaloupe
  • Strawberry
  • Tomatoes
  • Celery
  • Lemons

Dress At Least Five Degrees Warmer Than the Temperature

My sister always says that being a meteorologist is the only profession where you get to lie constantly and keep your job. She was slightly joking when she said that but the point still counts. My fibromyalgia doesn’t act up in the warmer months as much as it is now. When I get cold it seems like it takes forever to get warm and I’ll spend the rest of the day huddled underneath a blanket.

So as an example, Friday it’s supposed to be 49 degrees. There’s 90% chance of rain and thunderstorms. Factoring all of this in, I’ll dress like it’s 55 degrees outside that way I know I’m warm. It may not seem like much, but a scarf or a hat can make a big difference against a wind chill.

Create Your Own Sunshine

My mom likes to do this by turning on a bunch of lamps in the apartment. She says if the sun isn’t outside than she’ll create it inside. Another way to do this is by making life fascinating. Just because we have ordinary responsibilities to take care of does not mean they have to feel that way.

Just because we have ordinary responsibilities to take care of does not mean they have to feel that way. Click To Tweet

As an example, say it’s time for your weekly grocery shopping. Each time you go to the grocery store, you take the same route. You’ve gotten so used to driving in this direction that you barely notice what you drive by. This next time, pay attention to your surroundings. You just may discover a new store or what could potentially be your favorite restaurant. Make time for adventure and discovery.


What tips do you have for winter? Let me know in the comments below.

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The Visionary Friend

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The Visionary Friend

Originally posted: September 27, 2017.

How’s your vision? Would you say it’s good or bad? If we were talking about literal eyesight than you wouldn’t want to depend on me for anything without my glasses because my vision is actually quite poor. But no, today we’re figuratively discussing our vision. How much or how well we pay attention to others.

The definition of the word visionary means to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom. Synonyms for the word being: insightful, perceptive, and discerning. Can you use these words to describe yourself as a friend or your friends? And I’m not trying to call anyone out by writing this, I learned this lesson too. I recently had to look at myself and reflect on what kind of a friend I was.

My health has been changing lately. And with it came changes to my daily routine, what activities I could do, and even the way I thought. I had to grasp the realization that I couldn’t do what I once did. During this transition, I started to create expectations of others, not taking into consideration that they had their own life to live.

Someone once told me, that when you are in the height of your emotions, pain can feel like a box. And depending on how long you dwell on your own suffering that box can get smaller. This box can become so small that all you can see is yourself and the problems you face. I found this to be true. At the time, I felt like I had no one around me and that wasn’t true at all.

Once I realized that I was in a box, I started to look for ways to break out. Instead of waiting for my friends to come to me, I went to them. One of my favorite sayings is, “Everyone has a story. Sometimes we just need to read it.” Being perceptive of others let me see that they were suffering and going through something just as much as I was. And if they wouldn’t come to me, I needed to take the first step and go to them.

If you have nothing to your name, you have your time to give. You have a shoulder to give for others to cry on. If you are a visionary friend you will be able to notice that something is wrong with your friend and ask them about it. It’s hard for some to take the initiative to bring up what’s bothering them, ask first.

Being a friend is a two-way street. If we want someone to be there for us in our time of need, we have to be there for them. Click To Tweet

Being a friend is a two-way street. If we want someone to be there for us in our time of need, we have to be there for them.

  • We don’t want to be a Taker– Someone who should be seeing a psychiatrist instead of calling you on the phone about their problems. They take your time, they take emotionally but never give anything in return.
  • Or, the Non-Follow Through– The friend that says they will be there when you need them, but never shows up.
  • The 3-Way Caller– Always asking another friend how you or someone else is doing instead of calling that person directly.
  • Be the Visionary Friend– someone who takes the initiative to ask about the welfare of their friends. Someone who is there when needed. Someone who notices when something is wrong.

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Letting Go of Old

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Letting Go of Old

Originally posted September 21, 2017

Monday, we said goodbye to the final piece of the past. In a way, it was an odd experience because to anyone else these are just two bookcases. To my mother and I, it’s us saying goodbye to memories and a chunk of our lives that had been overshadowed by my father.

Even typing out these words seem weird to me because my father’s been gone for 12 years. But this was the last thing of his (He’s not dead, he’s been out of the picture since I was 13.) that we had and now his influence is completely gone.

These bookcases started out with a great big platform top. With all the pieces combined, they once housed a 40inch big screen TV that was bought in the early 2000s so it was as big as it was wide. Our living room then wasn’t made for conversation and intimacy it was made for entertainment. We fit into a restricted mold of what life had to be. Once he was gone, well, we started to break that mold. One day, the TV stopped working so my mom was more than happy to let it go. Next came the platform top, the bookcases were a whole lot easier to move without it. And now, bye-bye bookcases.

The Lamp of Memories

Going through our experience made me remember another, of a woman with a lamp. We became quite close to our neighbors that lived beside us before we moved not long ago. And during our moving process, we would give them items that we didn’t want or couldn’t take with us. Through the course of this exchange, she gave me a lamp. And I love it, it matches the wood furniture in my bedroom and I put a nice flower print lampshade on it. But to her, it was one of the last items that she had from a previous relationship. She had so many bad memories from this relationship that she actually hated the lamp.

we tend to hold onto items that have sentimental value. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of our health and benefit. Click To Tweet

Now my question for all: Why do we do this to ourselves? For some reason, as humans, we tend to hold onto items that have sentimental value. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of our health and benefit. Remember sentimental does not just mean tender thoughts, it also means something invokes sadness and nostalgia. It makes me sad though, do we want to feel this way and is that why we hold on? Or do we simply forget too, that it’s just a lamp and bookcases, and you can always buy more? I think it’s time to let it go and live free.

Do you know when it is time to let go?

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