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The Visionary Friend

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The Visionary Friend

Originally posted: September 27, 2017.

How’s your vision? Would you say it’s good or bad? If we were talking about literal eyesight than you wouldn’t want to depend on me for anything without my glasses because my vision is actually quite poor. But no, today we’re figuratively discussing our vision. How much or how well we pay attention to others.

The definition of the word visionary means to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom. Synonyms for the word being: insightful, perceptive, and discerning. Can you use these words to describe yourself as a friend or your friends? And I’m not trying to call anyone out by writing this, I learned this lesson too. I recently had to look at myself and reflect on what kind of a friend I was.

My health has been changing lately. And with it came changes to my daily routine, what activities I could do, and even the way I thought. I had to grasp the realization that I couldn’t do what I once did. During this transition, I started to create expectations of others, not taking into consideration that they had their own life to live.

Someone once told me, that when you are in the height of your emotions, pain can feel like a box. And depending on how long you dwell on your own suffering that box can get smaller. This box can become so small that all you can see is yourself and the problems you face. I found this to be true. At the time, I felt like I had no one around me and that wasn’t true at all.

Once I realized that I was in a box, I started to look for ways to break out. Instead of waiting for my friends to come to me, I went to them. One of my favorite sayings is, “Everyone has a story. Sometimes we just need to read it.” Being perceptive of others let me see that they were suffering and going through something just as much as I was. And if they wouldn’t come to me, I needed to take the first step and go to them.

If you have nothing to your name, you have your time to give. You have a shoulder to give for others to cry on. If you are a visionary friend you will be able to notice that something is wrong with your friend and ask them about it. It’s hard for some to take the initiative to bring up what’s bothering them, ask first.

Being a friend is a two-way street. If we want someone to be there for us in our time of need, we have to be there for them. Click To Tweet

Being a friend is a two-way street. If we want someone to be there for us in our time of need, we have to be there for them.

  • We don’t want to be a Taker– Someone who should be seeing a psychiatrist instead of calling you on the phone about their problems. They take your time, they take emotionally but never give anything in return.
  • Or, the Non-Follow Through– The friend that says they will be there when you need them, but never shows up.
  • The 3-Way Caller– Always asking another friend how you or someone else is doing instead of calling that person directly.
  • Be the Visionary Friend– someone who takes the initiative to ask about the welfare of their friends. Someone who is there when needed. Someone who notices when something is wrong.

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Letting Go of Old

Letting Go of Old- Do you know when it is time to let go? We tend to hold onto items that have sentimental value. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of our health and benefit.| jointhemeproject.com

Letting Go of Old

Originally posted September 21, 2017

Monday, we said goodbye to the final piece of the past. In a way, it was an odd experience because to anyone else these are just two bookcases. To my mother and I, it’s us saying goodbye to memories and a chunk of our lives that had been overshadowed by my father.

Even typing out these words seem weird to me because my father’s been gone for 12 years. But this was the last thing of his (He’s not dead, he’s been out of the picture since I was 13.) that we had and now his influence is completely gone.

These bookcases started out with a great big platform top. With all the pieces combined, they once housed a 40inch big screen TV that was bought in the early 2000s so it was as big as it was wide. Our living room then wasn’t made for conversation and intimacy it was made for entertainment. We fit into a restricted mold of what life had to be. Once he was gone, well, we started to break that mold. One day, the TV stopped working so my mom was more than happy to let it go. Next came the platform top, the bookcases were a whole lot easier to move without it. And now, bye-bye bookcases.

The Lamp of Memories

Going through our experience made me remember another, of a woman with a lamp. We became quite close to our neighbors that lived beside us before we moved not long ago. And during our moving process, we would give them items that we didn’t want or couldn’t take with us. Through the course of this exchange, she gave me a lamp. And I love it, it matches the wood furniture in my bedroom and I put a nice flower print lampshade on it. But to her, it was one of the last items that she had from a previous relationship. She had so many bad memories from this relationship that she actually hated the lamp.

we tend to hold onto items that have sentimental value. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of our health and benefit. Click To Tweet

Now my question for all: Why do we do this to ourselves? For some reason, as humans, we tend to hold onto items that have sentimental value. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of our health and benefit. Remember sentimental does not just mean tender thoughts, it also means something invokes sadness and nostalgia. It makes me sad though, do we want to feel this way and is that why we hold on? Or do we simply forget too, that it’s just a lamp and bookcases, and you can always buy more? I think it’s time to let it go and live free.

Do you know when it is time to let go?

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Tech Review|Canva iOS App

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Tech Review| Canva iOS App

This is my first review on this blog and I am very pleased that it is a positive one. Anyone starting out knows the difficulty in finding resources. And it doesn’t necessarily matter what they are starting out in. They could be pursuing their dream, starting a new job, or opening a new business. The point is, at the very beginning of anything, there’s not much money to spend.

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I want to make this blog as organic as possible and be truthful about each step that I take. So I went online to look for an aid in making logos and banners. I went to handy dandy Google and did a search for free logo makers. Now mind you, the free part is what got me. Because the first few sites that popped up looked like they were taking notes from clip art and PowerPoint presentations.

Finding Canva

Before all hope was lost and I lost what patience I had left for the day I came across Canva.

In clicking the link, it sent me to the direct link to the free iOS app for the iPhone. And even though I was thinking the only use I could get out of it was to make logos. It provided me with so much more. You can create logos, banners for Twitter and Facebook, and edit pictures for Instagram. All of the pictures on my blog, except for one that I haven’t got to yet were made on Canva.

Since the app is free, you honestly can’t go wrong in giving it a try.

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You can download the app at Canva

This gets 5/5 from me.

Anyone starting out knows the difficulty in finding resources.

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Let Me Reintroduce Myself

Posted in 2018, December 2018 by
Let Me Reintroduce Myself- Introducing the new blog, The ME Project and reintroducing myself as a blogger. Motivation & Encouragement mean a lot to me so I wanted to create a platform around them.| jointhemeproject.com

 

Let Me Reintroduce Myself

Hello everyone, and welcome to the new blog for The ME Project. For some including myself, this has been a long time coming. And for everyone else, I just thank you for stopping by the blog.

When It Began

I started blogging September 14, 2017. My blog was Pae Reviews and initially all I did was post reviews. Overtime I evolved as a blogger and I met others who became a great support system.

It was during this time that I created The ME Project. Motivation & Encouragement mean a lot to me. And I wanted to create a platform around that.

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It Grew From There

During this time, The ME Project really had three parts to it. I would write a post focused on motivation or encouragement. And there was also blogger interviews and guest posts.

As the series grew, so did my thoughts about rebranding. It just took months for me to finally make a decision.

Why Rebrand?

Using Pae Reviews started to feel restrictive. Yes, reviews are a part of what I do but not all. I personally felt like The ME Project was a better brand name. It covers all the bases.

What to Expect?

A little old with a remix of new. I want to continue what I started with blogger interviews and guest posts. It just may be a while before I start this. I have a lot of old posts from the old blog that need editing and revamping.

Motivation & Encouragement mean a lot to me. And I wanted to create a platform around that.

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Under Construction

Posted in December 2018 by

Thank you for stopping by to visit The Me Project! The site is currently under construction and will be up and running soon.


Edit- 11/30/2018

The site is site is no longer under construction.