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Create a Self-Care Toolkit

Create a Self-Care Toolkit

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According to the Oxford Living Dictionaries, the definition of self-care is, ”The practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.”

In Knowing Your Limits, I discussed what limits are and broke down the differences between physical, mental, and emotional limits. Today,  I’m going to help you create a self-care toolkit. From this post, you’ll be able to learn how to use it, what should go in it, and why it is important.

What is a Self-Care Toolkit?

In some ways, a self-care toolkit is self-explanatory (pun intended). A master craftsman keeps his toolbox full of instruments that he knows. He understands how they work, what role they play, and how they benefit him in the job he wants to perform. The same can be said for a self-care toolkit. Fill it with items that are going to help you fulfill your self-care routine.

How to Create a Self-Care Toolkit- Do you know what a self-care toolkit is? Want to find out the steps on how to make one? Read the article to find out how.- jointhemeproject.com

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Build up Where You Are Low

A self-care routine can have many factors to it. But I think it’s most important to build yourself up where you feel low. If you feel tired mentally add in items that are going to help you with that. Vice versa for other factors in your life that need strengthening.

Building off of Knowing Your Limits, I’ll be breaking the self-care routine into three parts:

  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Mental

The Tools

Chesapeake Bay Candle- Balance + Harmony

Price: $9.99

With a blend of Water Lily, pear and peach this candle can be a great physical addition to your self-care kit. Let the aroma relax you and ease away the stresses of your day.

 

#ANOTE2SELF Meditation Journal


Price: $11.99

For your emotional needs, I definitely recommend this journal. It was created with self-care and mental health as its purpose. Inside you’ll find writing prompts and goals with healing in mind.

 

Verilux HappyLight

Price: $39.95

While I’m including this light in the mental category, it can really go in all three because it has so many benefits. This light copies what we would get from the sun. This light therapy can help regulate your body. With its compact size, take it with you when you travel or place it where you need it most.

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These are just a few of the items I recommend you add to your self-care kit. You can view the rest below, simply click the picture.

Create a Self-Care Toolkit- Do you know what a self-care toolkit is? Want to find out the steps on how to make one? Read the article to find out how.- jointhemeproject.com

As always, let me know what you thought about this post. What would you add to your self-care kit?

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“Nana! The Pot’s Burning!”

“Nana!”

”The Pot’s Burning!”

Originally Posted November 28, 2017
Read the previous post here: Not so Black and White: My Family History

The funny thing about life is that no amount of scheduling or planning can prepare you for when things go awry. My mother had this phrase her Nana taught her to say when she was little. ”Nana The Pot’s Burning!”, was code for ”I don’t feel like being bothered.” Or ”I don’t want to talk right now.”

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Pot 2

My mother’s Nana wasn’t the type of woman to say those things out right. So my mother would come up with a kitchen emergency to get her off the phone. Then her nana would rush off the phone like it was an emergency. The only thing is, this could only be done a few times to the same person or else they would catch on. Over the week, and even yesterday, I had a series of “Pot Burnings”.

The Week

Monday and on into Thursday, I had a moment of realization that I was fighting against my own body. Not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. I’ve been sick with a virus for about a week which by itself is okay. But I’ve also been dealing with complications with my Migraines and Occipital Neuralgia.

”Nana! The Pot’s Burning!”- ”Nana The Pot’s Burning!”, was code for ”I don’t feel like being bothered.” Or ”I don’t want to talk right now.” Read the full article at jointhemeproject.com

I don’t discuss all of my health issues, that often because honestly, there are many. While one is being handled, the others are sitting on the shelf. And I don’t want my health to become a “thing” or an “it”. My health is a part of me, sometimes the parts don’t work like they are supposed to.

Planning for Failure

Yesterday, I started planning for the week. After one mishap after another, I realized the day wasn’t going to work out. I wasn’t working correctly and my tech has been acting up. The little bit that I was able to do wore me out.

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I was done. And I think that’s an important step to make. It’s okay to accept defeat in a battle as long as you don’t lose the war. With my anxiety and depression, I know myself enough to know I hit my limit. I needed to rest. I needed to de-stress.

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I took yesterday off. At first, I felt bad. I didn’t want to miss a post. Then I realized it didn’t matter if I wasn’t in the right mindset to write it. How could I talk about motivation, encouragement, or wellness if I wasn’t feeling these things?

Pot 3

Bad days will happen. But good days are around the corner. Click To Tweet

Today is better. Today, I’m here to say that it’s okay if the pot has to burn and you have to give up the day for yourself, as long as you don’t give up entirely. Bad days will happen. But good days are around the corner.

Sometimes, it's okay to admit defeat. Check out this article at jointhemeproject.com

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Knowing Your Limits

Knowing Your Limits

Originally posted: December 18, 2017
Read the previous post here: Breaking Down My First Month of Blogging

You know what is really interesting about life? We are always learning and adapting the way we understand the events that happen around us.

So far, I’ve discussed becoming a healthier person and the positive ways to do that. But I don’t really think that we have dove into mental and emotional health as much.

Do You Know Your Limits?

To me, limits, are what we will allow ourselves to handle. Anything above a set limit is too much. After reaching your limit, it is good to take a break from the situation or the event.

Admitting that you have a set limit is not a weakness. It just means that you are aware of what your body needs. Click To Tweet

Personally, I have physical, emotional, and mental limits. And admitting that you have a set limit is not a weakness. It just means that you are aware of what your body needs. I’m going to go through and break these down a bit. I hope that this makes everyone think and come up with their own limits.

Know Your Physical Limit

With my mobility issues, I’ve become pretty aware of what my body can handle. There are still some days that I push myself and I don’t mean to, but I think I have found a pretty good balance. If I have a doctor’s appointment or physical therapy scheduled one day, I’ll make sure that the next day is open to rest. That way, I can relax and release the tension that’s built up over the previous day.

I also like to try and plan out my week ahead of time. This helps me know what I need to get done. If I can plan out a shopping list I know what stores I will need to go to. Instead of shopping when I run out of something.

Know Your Emotional Limit

Knowing your emotional limit is kind of a tricky one. It is based on your personal background and on what you can handle. When I’m close to my limit, I try to remove myself from the situation.

Improve by:

  • Say ”no” when you need to
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Start a journal
  • Detox from negativity

Know Your Mental Limit

Stress can be the biggest trigger to your mental limit. The best thing to do is find ways to combat the stress in your life. Change up your routine or limit your exposure to stressful situations.

If you are going through something, remember you are not alone. Don't be afraid to lean on others for help. Click To Tweet

Even with all of these, you know your body, listen to it. It will tell you when something is wrong.  Everyone is going through something whether you know it or not. It’s so important that we are kind and understanding of others. If you are going through something, remember you are not alone. Don’t be afraid to lean on others for help.

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The Illusion Of Social Media

The Illusion of Social Media: Do you the influence social media can have on you? It's based on an illusion but it can affect your mental and emotional health as well.| jointhemeproject.com

The Illusion

of Social Media

Previously posted: October 23, 2017

Before the idea of creating a blog entered my mind, I had stopped posting as much on my personal social media. My level of interest in it had become very low. I deleted Snapchat off my phone and closed my personal Twitter account. And I had stopped using Facebook in high school. So in the process of elimination Instagram was my only social media, but I even got tired of that.

The Illusion

By tired, I’m not talking about Instagram as an application but the persona that I had created. When I made my account, I had just graduated high school, and I was healthy. On Instagram, I would always see perfect food, hair, makeup, and places to travel to. I thought that I needed to contribute to this.

At the time, I didn’t realize that I was just adding on to the illusion of social media. Because it wasn’t until around the year 2014, that my health started to change. I got sicker and my mobility was different. I no longer had opportunities to feature and showcase what I used to on my Instagram. Instead of being out in the middle of a field, my view was now a doctor’s office. And even though, I’ve tried there’s no way to get a pretty picture of that.

One day, I woke up and I realized that my whole life had changed. I needed to be honest with myself. Click To Tweet

The Lie

It got to the point that I would hide that part of me, the sick side. I would post the “best” or “pretty” parts of my life and hide the ugly. But I wasn’t acknowledging that the “best” or “pretty” parts were coming around less and less. One day, I woke up and I realized that my whole life had changed. I needed to be honest with myself.

Around this time, Lara Parker at BuzzFeed published, I Stopped Lying About How Happy I Was On Instagram And Started Telling The Truth About Chronic Pain, I ask that everyone go read this if you already haven’t. Reading this article helped me break out of this false reality that I had built for myself. For one, I was treating my illnesses as a thing or a problem and not as a part of me. Two, I thought by not letting people in, the problems would go away.

Reading this article helped me break out of this false reality that I had built for myself Click To Tweet

Social Media Honesty

So I started to post more on Instagram, but I went about it differently. This time around, I decided to be honest about whatever I’m going through. There are days that I don’t feel like or can’t get out of the bed depending on if it’s physical or mental. There’s only so much of a story, a picture can tell, so this is also one of the reasons I started my blog. I wanted to share my journey and tell my story.

Social media has grown so much in such a short amount of time. It’s used to connect people, reach out, and make friends. But it can also influence. The influence it has on some can leave a powerful effect. I think we all can use the occasional reminder that it’s just an illusion.

The Illusion of Social Media: Do you the influence social media can have on you? It's based on an illusion but it can affect your mental and emotional health as well.| jointhemeproject.com

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The Visionary Friend

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The Visionary Friend

Originally posted: September 27, 2017.

How’s your vision? Would you say it’s good or bad? If we were talking about literal eyesight than you wouldn’t want to depend on me for anything without my glasses because my vision is actually quite poor. But no, today we’re figuratively discussing our vision. How much or how well we pay attention to others.

The definition of the word visionary means to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom. Synonyms for the word being: insightful, perceptive, and discerning. Can you use these words to describe yourself as a friend or your friends? And I’m not trying to call anyone out by writing this, I learned this lesson too. I recently had to look at myself and reflect on what kind of a friend I was.

My health has been changing lately. And with it came changes to my daily routine, what activities I could do, and even the way I thought. I had to grasp the realization that I couldn’t do what I once did. During this transition, I started to create expectations of others, not taking into consideration that they had their own life to live.

Someone once told me, that when you are in the height of your emotions, pain can feel like a box. And depending on how long you dwell on your own suffering that box can get smaller. This box can become so small that all you can see is yourself and the problems you face. I found this to be true. At the time, I felt like I had no one around me and that wasn’t true at all.

Once I realized that I was in a box, I started to look for ways to break out. Instead of waiting for my friends to come to me, I went to them. One of my favorite sayings is, “Everyone has a story. Sometimes we just need to read it.” Being perceptive of others let me see that they were suffering and going through something just as much as I was. And if they wouldn’t come to me, I needed to take the first step and go to them.

If you have nothing to your name, you have your time to give. You have a shoulder to give for others to cry on. If you are a visionary friend you will be able to notice that something is wrong with your friend and ask them about it. It’s hard for some to take the initiative to bring up what’s bothering them, ask first.

Being a friend is a two-way street. If we want someone to be there for us in our time of need, we have to be there for them. Click To Tweet

Being a friend is a two-way street. If we want someone to be there for us in our time of need, we have to be there for them.

  • We don’t want to be a Taker– Someone who should be seeing a psychiatrist instead of calling you on the phone about their problems. They take your time, they take emotionally but never give anything in return.
  • Or, the Non-Follow Through– The friend that says they will be there when you need them, but never shows up.
  • The 3-Way Caller– Always asking another friend how you or someone else is doing instead of calling that person directly.
  • Be the Visionary Friend– someone who takes the initiative to ask about the welfare of their friends. Someone who is there when needed. Someone who notices when something is wrong.

As always, let me know what you think in the comments below. You can read the previous post, Letting Go of Old, by clicking the link.

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Letting Go of Old

Letting Go of Old- Do you know when it is time to let go? We tend to hold onto items that have sentimental value. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of our health and benefit.| jointhemeproject.com

Letting Go of Old

Originally posted September 21, 2017

Monday, we said goodbye to the final piece of the past. In a way, it was an odd experience because to anyone else these are just two bookcases. To my mother and I, it’s us saying goodbye to memories and a chunk of our lives that had been overshadowed by my father.

Even typing out these words seem weird to me because my father’s been gone for 13 years. But this was the last thing of his (He’s not dead, he’s been out of the picture since I was 13.) that we had and now his influence is completely gone.

These bookcases started out with a great big platform top. With all the pieces combined, they once housed a 40inch big screen TV that was bought in the early 2000s so it was as big as it was wide. Our living room then wasn’t made for conversation and intimacy it was made for entertainment. We fit into a restricted mold of what life had to be. Once he was gone, well, we started to break that mold. One day, the TV stopped working so my mom was more than happy to let it go. Next came the platform top, the bookcases were a whole lot easier to move without it. And now, bye-bye bookcases.

The Lamp of Memories

Going through our experience made me remember another, of a woman with a lamp. We became quite close to our neighbors that lived beside us before we moved not long ago. And during our moving process, we would give them items that we didn’t want or couldn’t take with us. Through the course of this exchange, she gave me a lamp. And I love it, it matches the wood furniture in my bedroom and I put a nice flower print lampshade on it. But to her, it was one of the last items that she had from a previous relationship. She had so many bad memories from this relationship that she actually hated the lamp.

we tend to hold onto items that have sentimental value. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of our health and benefit. Click To Tweet

Now my question for all: Why do we do this to ourselves? For some reason, as humans, we tend to hold onto items that have sentimental value. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of our health and benefit. Remember sentimental does not just mean tender thoughts, it also means something invokes sadness and nostalgia. It makes me sad though, do we want to feel this way and is that why we hold on? Or do we simply forget too, that it’s just a lamp and bookcases, and you can always buy more? I think it’s time to let it go and live free.

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Do you know when it is time to let go?

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