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Wash Day for Box Braids

Wash Day for Box Braids

Originally Posted October 20th, 2017
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Previously on Tackle That Fro:

Recently, in the Tackle That Fro series, I shared my thoughts on Protective Styling. Following the list of events, is the routine I used to cleanse and care for my hair while I wore my hair in braids. Keep in mind that my routine is a little different compared to how I normally take care of my natural hair.

Wash day for box braids

But still all the while, I like to keep my products to a minimum. I like to wash my hair once a week no matter the style and I’ll explain why. To read the previous Tackle That Fro posts, simply click any of the links provided at the top of the article.

Background on My Hair

My dad has this weird thing about him where he sweats from his scalp. Unfortunately, genetics played out and I inherited it from him. It may be a little TMI, but hey I’m just being honest.

As strange as it may sound, sweat aside, my scalp can also be quite dry. So I will usually look for a cleansing shampoo and I’ll pair that with a deep conditioner.

Hair Products & Tools

Pantene Pro-V Repair & Protect Shampoo

Shampoo

As I mentioned before, I usually go for a cleansing shampoo but this one was close by. With a cleansing shampoo, I know that all of the dirt and build up from the week is gone. This Pantene Repair & Protect boasts that it can restore smoothness, shine, and manageability when used daily. I’m not sure about all of that, but it did get my hair clean. I pride myself on being a person of integrity and honesty, I will say that this may be my last time using this shampoo and I will explain why.

I know some naturals are careful about the products they use because of the ingredients. Some only use natural ingredients and try to stay away from modified ingredients or chemicals. These things don’t bother me that much. I’ve learned through my major in Graphic Design and taking Advertising classes that the first ingredients listed on the back of a product are the main component of that product.

Wash day for box braids

So to my dismay when I looked up the ingredients of Pantene’s Repair & Protect Shampoo the first four ingredients were: Water, Sodium Laureth Sulfate, Cocamidopropyl Betaine, Sodium Citrate. Water is obvious. Sodium Laureth Sulfate and Cocamidopropyl Betaine are used just to produce more foam and bubbles. Sodium Citrate is supposed to help with the pH level of the shampoo and help smooth the surface of the hair cuticles.

Now once again, my issue is that these ingredients are the main component or the foundation of this shampoo. Its main ingredient is a filler that makes foam, and that’s not really something I’m looking for to get my hair clean. I kind of went on a tangent there, I apologize, I promise that this is still a wash day routine, moving on.

Aussie Moist 3 Minute Miracle Deep Treatment

Conditioner

After the ingredient shock from the shampoo, I decided not to look up Aussie 3 Minute Miracle Moist Deep Conditioner. I admit that I’m turning a blind eye, but in my defense, I’ve gotten spoiled by this conditioner and I don’t feel like changing to a different one. I use this as my staple conditioner, no matter what hairstyle I’m prepping for. The directions say to leave it in for 3 minutes, but I honestly don’t think anyone leaves it for just three minutes.

 

Olive Oil Eco Styler

Eco Styler

When I’m wearing a protective style, I only use this gel to slick down my edges. I’ll apply it then put on a scarf until the gel dries.

Conair 1875 Hair Dryer

Hair Dryer

This one is probably self-explanatory. I used to do the t-shirt method, but I found that my hair would still be a bit damp even after the t-shirt had absorbed all it could. And I don’t particularly like walking around with wet hair so using a hairdryer was the next solution. I sat down while I dried my hair. We have a garden stool in our bathroom that we put in there for decoration, but I end up using it more for a chair.

 

Accessibility in the Shower

I won’t say how long I was in the bathroom doing all of this, but I made sure I had something to drink and music to keep me distracted. Now standing in the shower would have killed me, so I did all of this sitting down because I knew it would take me a long time.

Because of my injuries and chronic illnesses, sometimes I make use of a shower chair. I’ve linked one that looks like mine, below. It’s not glamorous or anything but it gives me the needed stability and comfort I need.

Shower Chair

Body Acne

Just as a tip, always make sure you wash your hair first, then wash your body. You can avoid developing body acne this way. I learned this tip from Jackie Aina. I linked that video below so you can watch it.

My Steps

  • I don’t immediately wash my hair when I get in the shower. I like to let the water run on my hair. This way I’m getting a chance to massage my scalp and loosen the build up from the base of the braids. I do this for a few minutes, then I’ll proceed to shampoo.
  • While I’m shampooing my hair, I try my best to avoid using my nails. And I do this so I don’t disturb the braids or frizz up my hair. While my hair is in the style I want to maintain its form as much as possible.
  • I shampoo twice, and then I move on to the conditioner. It’s kind of tricky maneuvering around braids, but I do my best to apply the conditioner to my scalp. Because the conditioner is thick I dilute it a bit with water. I only let it sit for what I think is five minutes before I rinse.
  • After finishing my shower, I sit down again and blow dry my hair.

Do you have a different routine for your hair depending on the style? How many products do you use? And, do you care about the ingredients in your hair products?

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Protective Styling

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Protective Styling

Originally Posted October 11th, 2017
Previous post from the series

Hello everyone, and welcome back to Join The ME Project. Today’s post, Protective Styling is a continuation to the Tackle That Fro series. You will learn a little more about me and my preference for protective styles when it comes to my natural hair. I hope you enjoy.

Before going natural, getting my hair braided was a struggle for me. I used to be quite tender-headed and the whole hair braiding process was not enjoyable to me and I know it probably wasn’t fun for the person braiding my hair either. I was the type to tighten up my shoulders, tense up my neck, basically fight against having my head moved or positioned. I had this spot right smack dab in the middle of my head, and when the hair braider hit that I would wiggle and squirm like a worm.

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I am so thankful that I got over that because I used to get my box braids done like every few months. They were my go-to protective style. In natural hair terms, a protective style just means that your hair is styled in a way that doesn’t require regular, sometimes daily, manipulation or “styling”. I realized very early on in my natural hair journey that I would need get better at my hair regime. The hairstyles that I was doing weren’t lasting very long.

Learn more about my natural hair journey and my preference for protective styles. Check out this article at jointhemeproject.com

I honestly felt that I had my hands in my hair too much. My hands were getting tired and my hair was tired. At the time of my TWA, I was styling my hair just about every day. Events just happen to coincide that I would be having knee surgery and be in a brace for months while doing physical therapy. We got in contact with a friend of my mother’s and set up an appointment for box braids.

I decided on box braids for two reasons:

  • One- The 70s and 90s are my two favorite eras and I love the Poetic Justice box braids. My style has always been a mix of the two times periods. If I was going to do a protective style, I wanted it to be something that would fit me and be something that I was comfortable with.

Janet Jackson poetic justice protective stylingJanet Jackson poetic justice protective styling

  • Two- I had tried other styles before and I didn’t like them as well. When I was a sophomore in high school, I got Micro braids and it was the worst decision I ever made. I didn’t know how to take care of them, didn’t know how to take them out, and they ended up doing more harm than good. I’d also gotten Kinky Twists before, and while I liked the style. I don’t think it looked good on my face it’d that makes sense. I would like to try a wig, but I haven’t found one I like yet.

Getting box braids was the best decision I made, not only because I didn’t have to worry about my hair while I recovered from surgery but my hair got a break. It was able to grow without the constant manipulation and during that time, I was able to learn what my hair needed. And I don’t want to make it seem that a protective style is just box braids. A protective style, in my own words is a hair vacation from the constant stress of heat and daily styling.

Protective styling

After the knee surgery talked about previously, I’ve gone on to have a couple more. And I was doing physical therapy to prevent another surgery. For each of these cases, I’ve gotten and currently have box braids. In all honesty, it helps me focus on healing and not having to worry about my hair. Because who’s got time to do a twist out right now?

So for this Tackle That Fro, I want to hear your story? Do you protective style? And if you do protective style, what is your favorite, or what is a style that you won’t ever do again? Let me know, I’m curious.

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Learn more about my natural hair journey and my preference for protective styles. Check out this article at jointhemeproject.com

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The Big Chop & TWA

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The Big Chop & TWA

Originally posted October 3rd, 2017
Previous posts from the series:
At first, I started to stretch the time in between my relaxers. Then I just stopped with the relaxers completely so I could transition from relaxed to natural. I’d been told to clip my hair a little each month. I had friends that had gone that route and they did it so they wouldn’t lose the length of their hair. So as their new growth grew out, they would cut off the relaxed straight hair.

I was doing that for awhile and I just got impatient with the whole process. I’ve never been one to worry about that. I’ll get a pixie cut in a minute. So I gradually started cutting my hair during the period of a week. Then I finally went to a salon and got it completely cut off. So I transitioned for six months and I big chopped June 25, 2015.- No More Relaxers!Join The ME Project

The Big Chop

I stated in the previous article that I went the route of doing a big chop instead of transitioning my hair. At the time, it felt like the right decision for me and more so, because I’m an all or nothing type of girl. In my mind, I was thinking, “You’ve made the decision to go natural, so let’s go natural!” I didn’t want to invest in the time it would take to transition my hair from relaxed to natural when I could simply chop off all of the relaxed hair and BE natural.

The big chop

Hair Care & Products?

In hindsight, my thinking was sound. But I admit now that I was impatient and I should have taken more time to learn not only about my hair but the care it would need. I’ve heard that some have gone through a “hair-crisis” after the B.C. That wasn’t necessarily the case for me. When I graduated high school I cut my chin-length hair into a pixie cut, so the length (or not having a length) of my hair didn’t bother me. My problem was I didn’t have the right products or knowledge that I needed.

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I remember the leaving the salon the day of my BC (big chop) and going into a Walgreens. I stared at their ethnic hair product selection in utter confusion. I didn’t know what I was supposed to get. I didn’t know of the LOC method or pre-poos, I barely knew what a deep conditioner was. I remember grabbing a cheap Suave conditioner, some sort of detangling spray and heading to the counter.

Knowledge is Power

After some initial stumbling and falling, I started to figure things out. Styling at this point was really nonexistent for me, but I found that moisture was key. Before the BC, I could hide my face behind my relaxed hair and my glasses. Living life with a TWA really brought the focus back on my face. It helped me get comfortable with myself and find ways to express myself and try things that I hadn’t thought of before.

Want to learn my big chop experience? Interested in reading my thoughts on having a TWA? Check out this article at jointhemeproject.com

Believe it or not, but this was my first time trying lipstick. I knew that with the focus off of my hair, I could get away with trying something different, so lipstick it was. After trying lipstick, I bought funkier jewelry. I was already a jewelry lover before my BC, but afterward, I felt that I could get away with wearing bigger earrings.

Time

But just like with anything, hair takes time. You do get the benefit of growing your hair out as one even length and texture when you BC but don’t expect magical results. Your hair will still grow at the rate your hair normally grows. I made the mistake at the beginning of comparing my journey against the youtube videos I was seeing online. Until one day, I realized that we are all different. Sometimes hair does best when it is just left alone, and that’s where protective styling comes into play. I’ll talk more about that next time.

Want to learn my big chop experience? Interested in reading my thoughts on having a TWA? Check out this article at jointhemeproject.com

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No More Relaxers!

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No More Relaxers!

Originally Posted: September 23, 2017
Read the previous post here: March 2019| Popular Quotes of the Month

I don’t even know where to start this story from, should it be: the middle, the beginning, the end? Have you ever tried or done something that you didn’t know was bad for you until later but somehow you continue to do it for awhile before you quit? If your answer is yes, then you feel my pain. If your answer is no, that’s okay just keep reading and hopefully, you will understand.

My Beginning with Relaxers

I remember my first relaxer being a, Just For Me Relaxer, but I don’t remember how old I was. I know I was quite young, I was so young that I didn’t know what to do with my hair. And the crazy thing about it is from the Youtube videos and articles that I’ve read about black women they don’t know why they got a relaxer either. It’s a tradition or a doctrine was passed down from mother to daughter that that’s what you did after a certain age. And to be truthful, that’s basically what it is.

Society in the 60s & 70s

My mother was a child in the 60’s, in her teenage years by the 70’s. And at that time there was such societal pressure for black women to fit in with the rest (the same can be said for today). I can say from experience that natural hair definitely makes you stand out.

But during that time, they were told, “Your hair would look so much prettier if it was straight.”, “You look unkempt with your hair like that.” Words like these influenced some of them to blend in and that influence trickled down to later generations.

Add Chemicals but No TLC

The problem with me was that my hair was chemically straightened, but it wasn’t necessarily being taken care of. I have to be honest, my mom is not a hairdresser and she didn’t know what to do with my hair. When an attempt was made, my hair ended up in a bun or ponytail smack dab in the middle of my head and that’s all she wrote. Soon, a friend of my mom started to braid my hair (and interestingly enough she still does my box braids to this day.)

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Years went by and I got older, but unfortunately, I was still uneducated when it came to what my hair needed. During my early teenage years, I would go to the salon and get it done. But I had no clue about what upkeep my hair needed in-between visits. I look back now and I cringe ya’ll, I’m cringing.

There was even a time I got blonde highlights and afterward I couldn’t figure out why my hair broke off. Let me tell you what took the cake, what do you get when you mix old microbraids, new growth, and a super relaxer. You get a straight-up disaster, that’s what you get!

Micro Braids Disaster!

In high school, I got micro braids, something I will never get again. I remember it was a 9-hour process and I had two women working on my head at the same time. So I sat in a chair with very few breaks, acting like a human seesaw and at this time I was quite tender headed.

Learn about my hair journey transitioning from relaxers to natural. Many mistakes were made. But maybe you can learn from my example. Check out this article at jointhemeproject.com

I left the braids in for too long, and another problem was that I didn’t know how to take them out properly. Add on the super relaxer and well my hair fell out bad. I remember being in the shower watching my hair come out in clumps.

Would you yell at me if I told you that this wasn’t my relaxer finale? If you want to yell at me that’s okay, because this wasn’t the end. After the super relaxer fiasco, I went to the salon and got a haircut and continued on this destructive path.

Health Change, New Perspective

When I turned 20, my health changed a little bit, this caused me to start paying attention to what I eat and my daily activities. Around this same time, my sister went natural and she would always tell me about her progress. My sister is, in fact, my older sister, so she never asked if I wanted to go natural, she just told me to do it. That’s the type of relationship we have.

At first, I started to stretch the time in between my relaxers. Then I just stopped with the relaxers completely so I could transition from relaxed to natural. I’d been told to clip my hair a little each month.

Learn about my hair journey transitioning from relaxers to natural. Many mistakes were made. But maybe you can learn from my example. Check out this article at jointhemeproject.com

I had friends that had gone that route and they did it so they wouldn’t lose the length of their hair. So as their new growth grew out, they would cut off the relaxed straight hair. I was doing that for awhile and I just got impatient with the whole process.

I’ve never been one to worry about length. I’ll get a pixie cut in a minute. So I gradually started cutting my hair during the period of a week. Then I finally went to a salon and got it completely cut off. So I transitioned for six months and I big chopped June 25, 2015.


As always, let me know what you think in the comments below.

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Tackle That Fro, Natural Hair Series

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Natural Hair Series

Originally Posted: September, 20, 2017
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Hello everyone, and welcome back to Join The ME Project. Today, I will be introducing Tackle That Fro. It’s a natural hair series where you will learn more about me. You will find out the highs, lows, and the whoas. Starting off, I’m sharing what my mindset was when I thought about creating this series.

The Past

In the very beginning of my blogging journey I wanted to be able to keep my blogging life separate from my personal life. Some may remember, for a while I didn’t use my first name, I went by my blogging name. But in a way, I realized I created a barrier and it simply wasn’t cutting it. I didn’t want to restrict myself to what content I created.

I want you all to be able to get to know me and vice versa. Can someone be 50% anonymous? Maybe a better word for it is private? The point I’m trying to make is that I’ll be sharing more about myself, and to start that we have the Tackle That Fro series.

Tackle That Fro

I’ve been natural for over four years now, and man let me tell you, it’s been a journey. The “why did I agree to this trip, how long are we going to be on this car journey.” But I’ll start at the very beginning so you’ll be along for the ride. In the Tackle That Fro series I’ll be discussing the following:

  1. I Give up Creamy Crack!
  2. Natural Influences
  3. How Not to Big Chop
  4. After BC, What Next?
  5. Products: Fails & Wins
  6. Hair Expectations
  7. Protective Styling
  8. Hair Tools

Hopefully, this will be another way for you to get to know me. And through the comments, I can get to know you too. So as always, let me know what you think. If you are natural, how has the transition been for you? If you’re not natural and have a different hair texture, what do you think about all of this?

Introducing my transition from relaxed to natural. Starting at the very beginning. Check out this article at jointhemeproject.comIntroducing my transition from relaxed to natural. Starting at the very beginning. Check out this article at jointhemeproject.com

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