“Nana! The Pot’s Burning!”

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”The Pot’s Burning!”

Originally Posted November 28, 2017
Read the previous post here: Not so Black and White: My Family History

The funny thing about life is that no amount of scheduling or planning can prepare you for when things go awry. My mother had this phrase her Nana taught her to say when she was little. ”Nana The Pot’s Burning!”, was code for ”I don’t feel like being bothered.” Or ”I don’t want to talk right now.”

”Nana The Pot’s Burning!”, was code for ”I don’t feel like being bothered.” Or ”I don’t want to talk right now.”Join The ME Project

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My mother’s Nana wasn’t the type of woman to say those things out right. So my mother would come up with a kitchen emergency to get her off the phone. Then her nana would rush off the phone like it was an emergency. The only thing is, this could only be done a few times to the same person or else they would catch on. Over the week, and even yesterday, I had a series of “Pot Burnings”.

The Week

Monday and on into Thursday, I had a moment of realization that I was fighting against my own body. Not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. I’ve been sick with a virus for about a week which by itself is okay. But I’ve also been dealing with complications with my Migraines and Occipital Neuralgia.

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I don’t discuss all of my health issues, that often because honestly, there are many. While one is being handled, the others are sitting on the shelf. And I don’t want my health to become a “thing” or an “it”. My health is a part of me, sometimes the parts don’t work like they are supposed to.

Planning for Failure

Yesterday, I started planning for the week. After one mishap after another, I realized the day wasn’t going to work out. I wasn’t working correctly and my tech has been acting up. The little bit that I was able to do wore me out.

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I was done. And I think that’s an important step to make. It’s okay to accept defeat in a battle as long as you don’t lose the war. With my anxiety and depression, I know myself enough to know I hit my limit. I needed to rest. I needed to de-stress.

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I took yesterday off. At first, I felt bad. I didn’t want to miss a post. Then I realized it didn’t matter if I wasn’t in the right mindset to write it. How could I talk about motivation, encouragement, or wellness if I wasn’t feeling these things?

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Today is better. Today, I’m here to say that it’s okay if the pot has to burn and you have to give up the day for yourself, as long as you don’t give up entirely. Bad days will happen. But good days are around the corner.

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  • Reply lazygirlloves

    I know the feeling! My list of illnesses is as long as my arm but we fight through. Hope your feeling back to normal soon x

    November 28, 2017 at 7:45 pm
    • Reply Erika

      I’m doing better today. ❤️

      November 28, 2017 at 10:18 pm
      • Reply lazygirlloves

        I’m glad to hear that 🙂

        November 28, 2017 at 10:38 pm
  • Reply nudepinkorblack

    Love this, so well written! Hope you’re ok x

    November 28, 2017 at 10:06 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you so much. I’m doing better today ❤️

      November 28, 2017 at 10:20 pm
  • Reply Our Little Mountain Tribe

    Oh my I hope you are feeling better!!

    November 28, 2017 at 11:16 pm
    • Reply Erika

      I’m doing better today. Thank you for your kind words ❤️

      November 28, 2017 at 11:34 pm
  • Reply hebahpervaiz

    Thank you for sharing this! I feel like we punish ourself too much for taking time out for ourself – but really, isn’t that the most important thing?! I love your style of writing Erika. 🙂

    November 28, 2017 at 9:51 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you so much Hebah. I really appreciate it.

      November 28, 2017 at 10:19 pm
  • Reply jessxclare

    This is so true! I love your positive outlook on it, I really hope you’re feeling better soon x

    November 29, 2017 at 8:09 am
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you so much. ❤️ Each day gets a little better

      November 29, 2017 at 1:21 pm
      • Reply jessxclare

        That’s good to hear hope it carries on getting better for you ❤️

        November 29, 2017 at 3:31 pm
        • Reply Erika

          Thank you so much, Jess.

          November 29, 2017 at 8:23 pm
  • Reply sophieheartsnet

    I love how meaningful this post is, I completely agree, its so normal and okay to have a bad day! I hope your health improves but please don’t push yourself if you’re not up to it!- https://sophiehearts.net x

    November 29, 2017 at 12:54 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you so much, Sophie. I really appreciate it. At first, I was slightly on the fence about sharing this post, but then I thought about others that may be going through the same thing.

      November 29, 2017 at 1:45 pm
  • Reply bexcapades

    That’s a wonderful idea, my nans wouldn’t need this as they have no tact but it’s useful for others 🙂 I’d like to try this!

    November 29, 2017 at 3:05 pm
    • Reply Erika

      😂 oh, my goodness this made me laugh. Thank you, I needed that 😊

      November 29, 2017 at 8:22 pm
      • Reply bexcapades

        Honestly, they’re terrible 😂 you’ll be talking to them about something & they’ll either just walk away or say ‘you’re very chatty today, you’re hurting my ears’ 🙈

        November 29, 2017 at 9:08 pm
        • Reply Erika

          😂 I want to meet them so bad

          November 29, 2017 at 9:55 pm
  • Reply Veronica Spriggs

    sorry to hear about your health issues. life is like that sometimes we start the day with the best intentions but things get in the way.

    November 29, 2017 at 4:13 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Yup, that’s very true. Some days are just full of mishaps but I think it helps me appreciate the good days more.

      November 29, 2017 at 8:24 pm
  • Reply bostonbookreader

    This was a wonderful post, it takes a lot of courage to share your personal life, thank you.

    December 1, 2017 at 1:40 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you, Kris, I really appreciate it. I was kind of apprehensive about posting it at first. But then I thought maybe there’s someone out there going through the same thing.

      December 1, 2017 at 2:19 pm
      • Reply bostonbookreader

        I thought it was wonderful for you to share!

        December 1, 2017 at 6:57 pm
        • Reply Erika

          Thank you ❤️

          December 1, 2017 at 7:09 pm
  • Reply simplyshaiz

    It’s great that despite all you’ve gone through and continue to go through you still decided to take on a project as inspiring as thus one. I think that’s amazing!!!

    December 1, 2017 at 10:31 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you so much Keziah! It means a lot to me

      December 2, 2017 at 12:53 am
  • Reply mydangblog

    I hope you’ve rounded that corner!

    January 27, 2019 at 9:20 pm
    • Reply Erika

      I have, I’m feeling better. Thank you for reading

      January 28, 2019 at 2:42 am
  • Reply justnatonya

    I felt this way over the weekend my body was tired and was telling me to lay down and take a nap. I didn’t have a blog post released on Saturday and I’m ok with that. Sometimes you just have to stop, put everything else on back burner and just listen to your body. Like you said, we can feel defeated from the battle but don’t lose the war. This post was so motivating and encouraging.

    Natonya | https://justnatonya.wordpress.com

    January 28, 2019 at 5:31 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you so much for your comment. Sometimes I second guess what I write and think, ”OMG was that too much?”

      January 28, 2019 at 5:33 pm
  • Reply Amie. (@acurvyvegan)

    This is such a beautiful post! It’s okay to slow down and take time out and do what is best for you and your own wellbeing! I love this post so much.

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

    January 28, 2019 at 5:36 pm
    • Reply Erika

      I truly appreciate your wonderful comment

      January 28, 2019 at 5:52 pm
  • Reply Nicola

    This is great! Sometimes we have to slow down and look after ourselves. I love the analogy of “The pot’s burning!”


    January 28, 2019 at 6:24 pm
  • Reply Britt | Alternatively Speaking

    I believe you make a very important point – it’s okay if we lose a battle along the way. The truth is that we’re going to win some and we’re going to lose some, and that’s the way life goes. We need to stay focused on the bigger picture and how to ‘win the war’ instead.
    Britt | http://alternativelyspeaking.ca

    January 28, 2019 at 6:42 pm
  • Reply Claire Saul (PainPalsBlog)

    I read this earlier in the week before i had a huge pain flare – then I recalled your Nana’s “Pot Burning” and knew as the pain overwhelmed that I would have to accept defeat, but it was ok to take the time off of life…..so thank you! I lost a battle, but am still fighting the war! Claire x

    February 2, 2019 at 6:17 pm
    • Reply Erika

      That’s so great Claire! I’m happy that this post helped you. Sending you love and well wishes as you continue fighting the war ❤️

      February 6, 2019 at 3:18 pm
  • Reply GrandFashLife

    I have a ton of health problems as well but I try to push through the day even though I feel like I can’t daily. I wish that I could have a moment to myself, it’s like I have children with the amount of attention that is needed from my family. Those moments that my “pot is burning” are moments I wish I could disappear from the craziness. Beautiful post!

    Erica Raquel

    April 24, 2019 at 2:12 am
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you, Erica. And I know exactly what you mean. In those moments, I try to take a deep breath and dig down deep to muster up that little bit of strength that was tucked away for a rainy day. Sending you strength and well wishes from one Eri(c)ka to another ❤️

      April 24, 2019 at 2:17 am

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