The Illusion Of Social Media

The Illusion of Social Media: Do you the influence social media can have on you? It's based on an illusion but it can affect your mental and emotional health as well.|

The Illusion

of Social Media

Previously posted: October 23, 2017

Before the idea of creating a blog entered my mind, I had stopped posting as much on my personal social media. My level of interest in it had become very low. I deleted Snapchat off my phone and closed my personal Twitter account. And I had stopped using Facebook in high school. So in the process of elimination Instagram was my only social media, but I even got tired of that.

The Illusion

By tired, I’m not talking about Instagram as an application but the persona that I had created. When I made my account, I had just graduated high school, and I was healthy. On Instagram, I would always see perfect food, hair, makeup, and places to travel to. I thought that I needed to contribute to this.

At the time, I didn’t realize that I was just adding on to the illusion of social media. Because it wasn’t until around the year 2014, that my health started to change. I got sicker and my mobility was different. I no longer had opportunities to feature and showcase what I used to on my Instagram. Instead of being out in the middle of a field, my view was now a doctor’s office. And even though, I’ve tried there’s no way to get a pretty picture of that.

One day, I woke up and I realized that my whole life had changed. I needed to be honest with myself. Click To Tweet

The Lie

It got to the point that I would hide that part of me, the sick side. I would post the “best” or “pretty” parts of my life and hide the ugly. But I wasn’t acknowledging that the “best” or “pretty” parts were coming around less and less. One day, I woke up and I realized that my whole life had changed. I needed to be honest with myself.

Around this time, Lara Parker at BuzzFeed published, I Stopped Lying About How Happy I Was On Instagram And Started Telling The Truth About Chronic Pain, I ask that everyone go read this if you already haven’t. Reading this article helped me break out of this false reality that I had built for myself. For one, I was treating my illnesses as a thing or a problem and not as a part of me. Two, I thought by not letting people in, the problems would go away.

Reading this article helped me break out of this false reality that I had built for myself Click To Tweet

Social Media Honesty

So I started to post more on Instagram, but I went about it differently. This time around, I decided to be honest about whatever I’m going through. There are days that I don’t feel like or can’t get out of the bed depending on if it’s physical or mental. There’s only so much of a story, a picture can tell, so this is also one of the reasons I started my blog. I wanted to share my journey and tell my story.

Social media has grown so much in such a short amount of time. It’s used to connect people, reach out, and make friends. But it can also influence. The influence it has on some can leave a powerful effect. I think we all can use the occasional reminder that it’s just an illusion.

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  • Reply bostonbookreader

    Thank you for sharing this!

    October 23, 2017 at 9:11 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you for reading 😊

      October 23, 2017 at 9:16 pm
      • Reply bostonbookreader

        Of course! I love supporting other bloggers 😍

        October 23, 2017 at 9:18 pm
        • Reply Erika


          October 23, 2017 at 9:27 pm
  • Reply jessxclare

    Wow this was a powerful read! If you ever need someone to talk to you can always message me x

    October 23, 2017 at 9:16 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you. That means a lot.

      October 23, 2017 at 9:27 pm
  • Reply lotsoflovebex

    This is so honest, amazing post x

    October 23, 2017 at 9:35 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you 😊

      October 23, 2017 at 9:42 pm
  • Reply kaylaloves

    This is a really great post! Thanks for sharing!

    October 23, 2017 at 9:57 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you 😊 I’m glad you liked it

      October 23, 2017 at 10:16 pm
  • Reply Sayward Porcher

    I love to detox every once and a while! Great article and such a good read. I love what you’re saying about hiding the “bad” parts of your life, that’s exactly what Instagram does to you.

    October 23, 2017 at 11:45 pm
    • Reply Erika

      I try to do a detox every once in awhile too just to see what I’m actually using and what’s taking up space.

      October 23, 2017 at 11:49 pm
  • Reply Judanna H

    Such an honest post! Thank you so much for sharing x

    Judanna xo //

    October 23, 2017 at 9:18 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you so much for reading. I appreciate the support ❤️

      October 23, 2017 at 9:28 pm
  • Reply Our Little Mountain Tribe

    Wow this is so true…beforeblogging myself I was also on The train of stepping away from social media….and well honestly, now, unless it is blog related, I typically am not scrolling my personal feeds.

    October 24, 2017 at 2:22 am
    • Reply Erika

      It’s so weird isn’t it. It’s like now that I’m aware of what I was doing I don’t want start doing it again. I’ll go on my personal Instagram to see what everyone is up to but I rarely post anything these days.

      October 24, 2017 at 2:44 am
      • Reply Our Little Mountain Tribe

        Yes exactly! I only post pictures and updates of the munchkins for distant family to keep up to date. Other than that, I steer clear of my personal accounts. I feel SO MUCH more positive when I do!

        October 24, 2017 at 2:46 am
        • Reply Erika

          I know exactly what you mean.

          October 24, 2017 at 3:01 am
  • Reply Kxtieblog🍁✨

    Love this!! Thanks for sharing💗x

    October 24, 2017 at 8:11 am
    • Reply Erika

      I’m really glad you liked it.

      October 24, 2017 at 1:58 pm
  • Reply Sian

    This is soo true!! It’s so easy to compare yourself to others on social media!! You think their life is so perfect and you almost feel you have to make yours perfect too!! Really good read 😄😄

    October 24, 2017 at 8:23 am
    • Reply Erika

      I know it’s hard to keep it in perspective sometimes that most people only post the best parts of themselves.

      October 24, 2017 at 2:01 pm
  • Reply Queen Sapphire

    I’m so sorry to hear you got so ill and I hope you’re better. You are totally right. I think we all create a persona on social media. I have always shown a lot of confidence across all my social media, but that’s not always the case. I just don’t show off my insecurities 🤔 Social media is an interesting yet crazy place isn’t it?

    October 24, 2017 at 10:04 am
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you for your kind words. ❤️ I’m a bit better than what I used to be. Social media is a very crazy place lol. I think we do things sometimes bc it’s expected of us. It’s like asking someone, “How are you?” The automatic response is, “I’m fine and you.” We say this all the time, even if we aren’t okay.

      October 24, 2017 at 2:10 pm
  • Reply Mary

    I have to be honest as I was reading this I felt really close to you. It appeared to me as a very genuine and honest post. Thank you for sharing this it means a lot! xx -M

    October 24, 2017 at 10:09 am
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you so much. ❤️ When I made this blog, I made a promise to myself to be honest about everything. If I can write something and people enjoy it, that’s wonderful. If I write something and it helps someone in anyway, well that’s even better 😊

      October 24, 2017 at 2:16 pm
  • Reply simplyshaiz

    This was a very powerful post. Even if we all know deep down it is an illusion we still get that omg I need to workout feeling when we see another photoshopped body. You are so right it’s not easy to make the hospital room look great in a pic but there are so many people who might be laying on a hospital bed scrolling through insta hoping to find one pic that they can relate to instead of thousands to remind them of where they’re not.

    October 24, 2017 at 11:20 am
    • Reply Erika

      You are so right. I never thought of that. Thank you. ❤️🙏🏾

      October 24, 2017 at 2:19 pm
  • Reply Sonam

    Awesome post Erika! 🙌🏼

    Always put your health & wellbeing first. It’s something that I’ve been trying to do lately and it’s really been working well for me.

    October 24, 2017 at 12:17 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Thank you. It’s definitely a work in progress but I think I’m getting better at it. 😊

      October 24, 2017 at 2:20 pm
  • Reply falidude

    This is a powerful post and it’s always important to remember there are both advantages and disadvantages to social media.

    October 24, 2017 at 5:00 pm
    • Reply Erika

      This is very true. I’m glad you liked it. Thank you so much for reading.

      October 24, 2017 at 5:14 pm
  • Reply befuddledbeauty

    Great post! This is exactly why I never use filters or edit my photos aside from improving the brightness on dull days. I like to present things as they are! It does breed an attitude of mistrust if you can’t be sure what is real and what is not. It’s a real shame that we as a society feel that we have to ‘measure up’ to some arbitrary notion of perfection. We’re all human after all!

    October 25, 2017 at 10:56 am
    • Reply Erika

      Exactly, you’re so right. There definitely needs to be s balance between what’s real and what’s filtered. Thank you for reading. 😊

      October 25, 2017 at 12:46 pm
  • Reply Ashley Firth

    What a really interesting post! I have had my issues with social media in the past and the persona I had created through them. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xxx

    December 17, 2018 at 2:38 am
  • Reply xseptemberstar

    This is such an important post! Thank you for sharing ♡

    December 17, 2018 at 4:30 am
  • Reply hannahthemaddog

    This is great! I always get down in the dumps comparing myself to others on social media, especially with chronic illness. I’m in remission but it still sucks dealing with the side effects of weight gain and hair loss while everyone else looks so glamorous and loving life. I keep trying to tell myself it’s an illusion though because no one is going to post themselves at their worst with no makeup, unbrushed hair, PJ’s, etc.

    Hannah the Mad Dog

    December 23, 2018 at 12:31 pm
    • Reply Erika

      Yes, yes, and yes! I had to tell myself this so many times for this to really sink in. “Ugly” “Honest” “real life situations” don’t equate likes and popularity on social media.

      December 23, 2018 at 7:56 pm
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  • Reply Paloma @ (@ThroughWander)

    Great post! In my time as a blogger and posting on my social media account I have quickly realized I can only be myself. I tend to follow people who I feel are real and posting real pictures and don’t judge anyone by their grid. We’re people first and foremost, not brands.

    June 18, 2019 at 12:02 am
    • Reply Join The ME Project

      Yes! This is so true! It can be hard at first to filter through what’s real and what’s created for social media. But I also think that’s why it’s important that we try and not feed into the illusion

      June 18, 2019 at 4:07 am

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